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Parenting Tips: To Spank, Or Not To Spank?

By Jeremy Suede on August 24th, 2010

How do you feel about spanking your child?  Some would say it’s perfectly within good parenting to spank your child when the situation calls for it.  Others would say that you should never strike your child in anyway because the situation never calls for it.  Well which would you say the majority of parents in the U.S. would sway?

The medical journal Pediatrics reports that 65% of young children were spanked at least once over a four-week period by one or both parents.

Dr. Catherine Taylor and her team at Tulane University School of Public Health and Tropical Medicine conducted a study to determine whether there was a link between parents who use corporal punishment and a condition known as ‘intimate partner aggression or violence’ or IPAV.  The study involved 1,997 children, all three-years-old. 

Their study revealed some of these facts:

  •  About 65% of the 3-year-olds were spanked once or more during the preceding month, by at least one parent.
  • Of the partners who acknowledged family aggression (87%), over half reported occurrence(s) of corporal punishment and partner aggression or violence.
  • If the parents were aggressive with each other, the risk of corporal punishment on the child doubles.

The researchers concluded that corporal punishment remains common in the USA, despite recommendations against its use by the AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics).

Basically the study revealed the majority of families experience some sort of aggression and because of that spanking is more common than many would have thought.

What do you think about this study?  Is it ever ok to spank your child?

  • Pwll

    My daughter, who is now 29, was never spanked. She sometimes jokes that it might have been easier to live through the spankings than the lectures, but she turned out beautifully. When I was a teacher I asked the children in my third grade class whether or not they were spanked. Lo and behold, the children who were spanked at home were the ones most prone to use violence to settle their problems at school.

  • John Henry

    Yesterday my wife and I took our 2-1/2 yr old grandson to Seaworld. We have an agreement that spanking is negative, that time out is more produtive in the long run. There is no place for time out at Seaworld. Our grandson threw a tempertantrum outside of the Penguin exhibit. On the ground, the hot concrete, he stiffened up making it difficult for me to pick him up but I had to, I couldn’t let him sit or lie on the hot concrete. He can make it very difficult to pick him up if he is angry. I picked him up anyway and as I did he screamed and grabbed my neck and started scratching me with his nails. He was very aggressive. I quite smoothly rolled him over so that his but was up and brought my right hand down on him. I spanked him only once. He immediately changed from being aggressive to being hurt and crying. My wife was very upset with me but it wasn’t her our grandson was attacking. I love my grandson and we spend a lot of time together. I really don’t know what is the best course to take when he acts up like this. I do know that now I feel guilty and my wife is distant with me also. To spank or not to spank…Sometimes it seems to me that spanking quick at the time of the infraction is the thing to do.

  • Nancy Peske

    It’s unnecessary because there are better way to teach your child proper social behavior (“discipline” comes from a Latin word for “teach.”) Spanking sends a confusing message when the spanking parent is angry (the child may wonder, “Then is it okay to hit when I’m angry, as long as I’m right?”). If the parent isn’t angry, the focus on punishment that doesn’t have a clear link to the behavior can be confusing. Appropriate consequences for the behavior–being removed from the situation, not getting the toy the child was grabbing out of his siblings hand, being shown the emotional effect on his sibling and told to apologize–sends a clear message without confusing matters by spanking a child.
    Why spank? Not having been raised with it, it’s terribly confusing to me why anyone would choose the option except for expediency–and expediency isn’t a good reason, in my book. Better to use the opportunity of bad behavior to actually slow down and teach the child than to spank him simply because it’s any easy, fast response.

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